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Welcome.
Here you'll find a mix of educational pieces and my own musings on therapy, somatics, healing, and liberation.
While intended to inform, these writings are not meant to substitute the professional support provided in therapy and coaching sessions. Consider what you read an invitation to get curious about your experience and connect with others interested in doing the same.
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Am I Black Enough?
Am I Black enough? You’ve wondered this to yourself a million times. The short answer is, yes. But you need the long one.
Raina LaGrand
Feb 8, 20235 min read
Am I Triggered or Is This a Red Flag?
I get this question a lot. The most common answer I give? It depends. It really does. It depends on a lot of things, and it takes time...
Raina LaGrand
Feb 7, 20235 min read
Culture Creates the Context for Harm and Healing
Trauma permeates every aspect of our society. From the personal to the collective, it is such a presence that we can’t completely avoid...
Raina LaGrand
Jan 3, 20236 min read
Healing at the Pace of Trust
Often we worry that we aren't yet where we want to be. But the pace of healing is inherently slow. Parts Work can help.
Raina LaGrand
Nov 15, 20224 min read
Relationships as Triggers
No relationship is perfect. And far too many of us have also been subjected to harm in relationships.
Raina LaGrand
Nov 2, 20222 min read
The Legacy of Intergenerational Trauma
Intergenerational trauma manifests in many ways, but the one I'm going to focus on here are the messages, rules, and media our parts interna
Raina LaGrand
Oct 18, 20223 min read
7 Tips for Couples Navigating Conversations about Identity, Privilege, Power, and Oppression
Here’s some of my thoughts on how you can sensitive moments involving identity & oppression in a way that builds your relationship up.
Raina LaGrand
Oct 4, 20224 min read
Ending Therapy: A How-To Guide
Ending therapy can be confusing. Here's a guide to help you figure it out.
Raina LaGrand
Sep 20, 20224 min read
What Happens When One Partner Comes Out as Queer or Trans
Sooooo, you just came out to your partner. Or maybe, your partner just came out to you? There’s no template for exactly how to navigate a...
Raina LaGrand
Sep 6, 20222 min read
Three Ways Identity Differences Impact Interracial Couples
What makes couples compatible? Do opposites attract? Or do birds of a feather flock together? These are age-old questions. And while they...
Raina LaGrand
Aug 23, 20223 min read
Interracial Couples: Set Boundaries with Critical Family Members and Enjoy Your Relationship!
How to set boundaries with critical or racist family members and enjoy your relationship!
Raina LaGrand
Aug 16, 20223 min read
Three Ways Relationships Heal and How You Can Rewrite Your Relationship Rules
What does it mean when we say relationships heal? Or that we heal in community? How can you rewrite your relationship rules?
Raina LaGrand
Aug 9, 20222 min read
How to Navigate Evolving Identities Within your Relationship
Relationships are kind of like solar systems. Within our relationships, our identities, interests, and values are like the planets in...
Raina LaGrand
Aug 3, 20223 min read
Guest Post: Boundary Setting In Therapy
This blog includes a list of different places where therapists tend to make boundary mistakes and ways they can fix them.
Raina LaGrand
Jun 28, 20226 min read
Relationship Building as Tender Research
What assumptions do you make in new relationships? How can you approach new relationships as gentle research?
Raina LaGrand
Jun 21, 20223 min read
The You-Turn: How Autonomy Can Foster Deeper Intimacy
The fairytales we’re fed about love portray romance as a rescue mission. But is intimacy truly possible in that dynamic?
Raina LaGrand
Jun 16, 20224 min read
Who are you? Active Imagination and Healing Exiled Parts
Embodying your truth is not a passive thing. In fact, it demands a great deal of sympathetic activation.
Raina LaGrand
May 17, 20224 min read
Rhythm is a Resource
Rhythm gives us an embodied sense of predictability. It helps our bodies to feel safer, because it can reduce the need for hypervigalence.
Raina LaGrand
Apr 26, 20223 min read
Titration & Pendulation: Accomplishing, in No Hurry
Organic change, especially when it comes to matters of the subconscious, takes time. Enter: titration.
Raina LaGrand
Apr 12, 20224 min read
Your Boundaries Can Change
Your boundaries can (and should) change. Here's three reasons why.
Raina LaGrand
Mar 22, 20222 min read
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