Our bodies are inherently relational. They seek connection, attunement, and resonance with other bodies. 
 

Our need for relationships is critical to our wellbeing. And when we experience rejection or our needs are not met in our relationships, our bodies take extreme measures to prevent it from worsening or happening again. 

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Society often has a lot to say about our body's protective patterns. We might be praised for being “easy” or “not taking things personally.” We might be criticized for “being sensitive” or “clingy.” Others might come to rely on us for our people-pleasing tendencies. We might be called “entitled” or “narcissistic.”

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The outside comments can keep us focused on or overwhelmed by what others expect of us. Because, of course, we want to belong.

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When you long for more connection, intimacy, or a sense of belonging it can be really tempting to overanalyze what’s “wrong” with you or other people. It’s also tempting to completely check out to avoid the pain of your loneliness.

But your relational patterns illuminate what your body wants and needs. And your body is waiting for you to pay attention.

Learning about how our bodies adapt to navigate relational wounding from a somatic perspective can help you get out of your head and into your body’s moment-to-moment experience. 

You can feel less shame about the ways your body protects you from getting hurt. You can validate and meet your body's needs. And you can create muscle-memory responses to how to resource yourself when the fear of rejection or abandonment shows up.

You can feel hopeful about your capacity for healthy and fulfilling connections with others.