What's Your Boundary Style?
for Interracial Couples
Interracial couples face unique challenges around connection and communication.
Our identities have significant impacts on the ways we experience the world, how we choose to behave in it, and what we expect from it. They are highly relevant in our relationships and when we don’t treat them as such it’s only natural to feel misunderstood and disconnected, or for defensiveness and hostility to brew.
Interracial couples are more common than ever.
Many couples come to me because they want to build healthier, more vibrant relationships than they saw in their families or communities growing up. None of us grew up in a perfect environment. Our culture is one where emotions are often avoided, needs are sometimes criticized, and generative conflict isn't usually modeled. So when it comes down to it, navigating challenges in our relationships is certainly never a simple or easy task, in part because we haven't been taught how to do so!
Maybe you are experiencing one of these raw moments in your relationship. Or perhaps you want to do the work of honoring and intentionally preparing for these dynamics.
You are in the right place.
I specialize in working with interracial couples, including Queer couples, mixed orientation couples, kinky couples, polycules, and those practicing or interested in non-monogamy.
I believe the relationships we choose are opportunities to practice new behaviors and values that weren't available to us in previous relationships. I promise you that with intentionality and skill we can welcome in your differences and disagreements to foster deeper connection and fulfillment.
Benefits of Working Together
Understand Each Other More
I can help you learn to listen for not just what your partner is saying, but what they are feeling. Likewise, you’ll learn how to speak more clearly for your own feelings and needs.
Handle Conflict Better
Get unstuck from your usual conflict cycles. Learn how to help yourself and help each other when things get tense.
Feel More Connected
Learn the importance of curiosity, playfulness, and reciprocity in your relationship. Develop habits around expressing affection, offering pleasure, and just generally supporting one another.
Create an Intentional Relationship
Where do your dreams overlap and where do they differ? I’ll help you identify what you need to feel secure in your relationship as well as how you can respect each other's autonomy.
What are sessions like?
Let's create a better relationship.
My intention is to create a space where you can metaphorically exhale, where you can be radically honest, and where you don’t have to perform.
In the first session we’ll explore why now is a good time to do this work. What are you ready for more of in your relationship? What are the things that need to be addressed in order for you to feel better? We will set goals or intentions that will help us track where we are in the work.
After our initial session, I will meet with each of you individually to learn more about your personal history, concerns, and goals.
Finding our stride:
Our work will be most effective if we focus on one topic or theme each session. As your couples therapist, I will often encourage you to talk to one another rather than reporting to me. Of course, I will also help you out by engaging in the conversation with you and walking you through new skills.
I leave the decision to end our work together up to you. Some clients are ready to end once their initial goals have been met. Others prefer to set new intentions.
How much do sessions cost?
Sessions are $260 (75-minute sessions). I do not accept insurance. Learn more about why my practice is private pay and how to use your out-of-network benefits here.
How frequent are sessions?
I recommend couples do weekly appointments, at least at the beginning. Depending on how things feel and what my availability is every-other-week might feel sufficient. I do not provide monthly appointments.
What's your availability?
I work with clients Tuesdays - Thursdays 9 - 2:30 pm. Right now my schedule is very full, but I do have some availability. When my practice is at capacity or schedules don't align I keep a short wait list depending on our fit.
How long do people usually work with you?
I will have a better idea of how long you might expect to work on your initial goals after a few sessions. While therapy helps us find closure on many things in our lives, it also tends to open things up. I view therapy as a layered and multi-functional process that we can choose to be engaged with at any point in our lives. Together, we can identify the theme and scope of your care. Learn about your right to receive a Good Faith Estimate.
Where do we meet?
I provide both in-person and teletherapy to people living in Michigan. I'm based in Ypsilanti, MI, and if you are nearby you are more than welcome in my office.
What if we don't live in Michigan?
If you are interested in working with me but live out of state, I do provide virtual coaching for couples. During a consultation, we can explore if the scope and fit of coaching works for you.
What is somatics?
Learn more about the history and purpose of somatic approaches here.