Relationship Therapy
For couples, polycules and families who want to feel more emotionally connected and a deeper sense of trust in one another
Things used to feel so easy.
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But now:
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You’re having the same argument over and over. Because it’s not JUST about the fact that your partner didn’t do the dishes, or that your mom gave your kid candy without your permission.
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Intimacy feels hard. You used to be super touchy feely, but now one of you winces at just the thought of being hugged.
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Those cultural differences that didn’t feel so important at first are rearing their head. You can’t figure out how to make peace with your in laws expectations for how you’re managing your money or raising your kids.
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Positive changes in your lives have also brought challenges - whether new kids, a death inthe family, introducing non-monogamy into your relationship, trauma, or chronic illness.
You want to get back to the way things used to be. No, actually – you want your relationship to feel stronger than ever.
I work with couples, polycules, and families who want to feel more emotionally connected and a deeper sense of trust in one another. My approach integrates talking, mindfulness, and touch to help you do that.
Through our work together, you’ll be able to:
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Understand each other better. Learn how to sense what’s underneath your behaviors and interactions. When your loved one does (or doesn’t do) something, it won’t feel like such a personal attack. You’ll recognize why your partner is avoiding telling your MIL that you’re not coming to the family reunion, and be able to initiate an accountability conversation rooted in compassion, rather than critique.
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Develop more effective communication skills. Practice expressing your feelings and needs in a way that doesn’t immediately shut your partner down. Conflict will stop feeling so damn scary, because you’ll feel like you’re on the same team. You’ll trust your skills to repair and actually feel closer than ever after every misunderstanding.
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Feel more fulfilled by your relationship. Learn how to attune to your loved ones needs and desires. Gain confidence advocating for needs and interests during sex. Use your relationship as a site for healing the ways you’ve felt harmed or neglected in past relationships, or to break the cycles that have been passed down generation to generation.
Who I work with
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Cross-Cultural & Interracial Couples
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Parents of Mixed Kids
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Queer Couples
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Polyamorous Relationships
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Parents & Adult Children
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Siblings
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Chosen Family
What do sessions look like?
Sessions involve structured dialogue that goes deeper than “you didn’t do the dishes.” Because underneath that anger is something else.
Each session, we’ll pick a topic or interaction you want to focus on, explore what happens emotionally and physiologically in real time, and seek to understand the past experiences and core beliefs that shape how you’re seeing your partner and interacting with them.
I will offer languaging that you can practice and use in your conversations during and outside of our sessions. I’ll also facilitate experiments that may involve touching, mindfulness, or touch.
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The Details​​​
There are two ways to work with me:
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We meet on an ongoing basis (usually weekly, though every-other-week can be considered depending on your needs and finances) until your goals are met or you feel complete. These sessions are 75-minutes long and cost $260.
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We work together in a therapy intensive. That usually involves an initial one-hour session, followed by additional sessions that are 2-4 hours in length (we can work out the exact number of those sessions together). Sometimes intensives are focused on using NeuroAffective Touch to increase trust and intimacy. These are priced at $220/hr.
I do not accept insurance but can provide you with a fancy receipt called a superbill that will have everything you need on it to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement, if they cover out-of-network treatment. One of you will need to be assigned a diagnosis in order to qualify for reimbursement.
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