for Couples & More
Relationships bring a lot of joy and pleasure into our lives. And, they also invoke our deepest vulnerabilities.
Many clients come to me with hopes of building healthier relationships than they witnessed growing up, or see in their communities, or even in the media. Insecurity and conflict are normal in even healthy relationships, but many of us haven't been taught how to compassionately and effectively deal with these situations in a way that provides repair and moves the relationship forward.
I believe relationships are opportunities to practice new behaviors and values that weren't available in our family of origin or communities growing up. While you may worry that disagreement, misunderstanding, or insecurity in relationships signals failure, with the right skills we can use these moments to foster deeper connection and fulfillment.
Relationship therapy can help you feel more prepared to cope with conflict, so that you can spend more time enjoying your life together. I promise you it is possible to create new patterns so that you feel connected and mutually empowered in your relationship.
I work with couples as well as non-romantic dyads on issues such as
Breaking family trauma patterns and co-creating your own vision of family and community
Interracial relationship challenges
Communication issues resulting from differences in communication styles
Differences in personal values and interests
Expressing and responding to emotions in ways that feel good for both partners
Each of us deserves healthy relationships and beloved community. You can experience a healthy, secure relationship!
My approach to relationship therapy integrates somatics, Parts Work/Internal Family Systems Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and I am also trained in the Gottman Method. Read more about what to expect in sessions below.
I welcome all identities and relationship styles including those practicing consensual non-monogamy. I offer free 20 minute consultations. Please feel free to ask me about my experience with various concerns or identities and I'll be happy to share. If I think you could be better served elsewhere I will let you know.
Weekly: $195 (60-minute sessions)
Every-other-week: $225 (75-minute sessions)
All intakes are $225 (75 minutes)
Duration and Frequency
I work with couples on a weekly or every-other-week basis.
While therapy helps us find closure on many things in our lives, it also tends to open things up. I view therapy as a layered and multi-functional process that we can choose to be engaged with at any point in our lives. Together, we can identify the theme and scope of your care.
I provide both in-person and virtual services for couples living in Michigan. I'm based in Ypsilanti, MI, and if you are nearby you are more than welcome in my office.
If you live out of state, you might consider my coaching services.
What do sessions look like?
In couples therapy I take on what I call the an observant facilitator role. While I will definitely point out patterns, facilitate communication exercises or somatic practices, or work with one partner briefly, I mostly encourage you to interact with each other. I will pause you now and then to point out a pattern, ask questions, facilitate something regulating, or help you practice curiosity using Parts Work. We can start where you all agree would be most helpful. I hope that each session can offer the experience of a conversation that feels safe, mutually respectful, intensely curious, and effective. About 10-15 minutes before the end of session I’ll guide us toward more reflection to help you integrate what we’ve practiced, processed, or learned.
In general, this work is most effective when we can create a safe container. We can do this by making sure we are a good fit together, agreeing on goals or intentions, meeting consistently, taking our time in the work, and pausing to integrate what's happening along the way.